Self-abandonment… it’s a thing!
Abandonment is PAINFUL. So, why would anyone do that to themselves?
Are we some strange type of creature that enjoys punishment and suffering.
Well, it’s not that simple. In the field of self-abandoning and self-neglecting - if your brain’s building blocks or your early attachment system brainwashed and reinforced the idea that you need to look after others BEFORE your SELF. Then you are likely prone to self-abandonment.
If self-sacrifice and guilt feels familiar to you, you may also find you are self-abandoning more than you think.
Self-abandonment is a psychological concept that refers to the act of neglecting, disregarding, or abandoning oneself on emotional, psychological, or physical levels. It involves failing to prioritize one's own needs, well-being, and values, often in favor of external influences, other people's expectations, or societal pressures.
Okay - and when you tend to put others' needs before their own, struggle to set healthy boundaries, ignore your own feelings and desires, and suppress your authentic self to fit in or gain approval you end up feeling empty, resentful, shameful, or just simply disconnected from oneself and the world around you.
The bottom line is,
You Matter! Your Time Matters. Your Boundaries Matter. And your Self-Care Matters above all else because you can’t give from an empty well. Others will benefit when you truly value you, and you will in turn find your relationships are healthier, and the right people are drawn to you. Not the toxic ones.
And sadly, going down a tictok hole for hours, or binge watching Netflix isn’t exactly going to do the trick to cure this affliction.
Proper self-nourishment requires looking within, knowing our blocks to self-love, and finding ways to cultivate an INTERNAL loving relationship with our selves that doesn’t mirror our early pains and hurts.
Are you curious about what’s stopping you having a healthy relationship with you?
Try my interactive quiz here and Discover Your Blocks to Self-Love!
Fortunately, and thank the gods, there is so much we can do to repair and replenish and reverse this vicious cycle.
We just first have to value our needs and start looking at what is stopping us from doing it in the first place.
